Must Be Nice for You…

It’s happening. Everyone who got pregnant around the same time as me is starting to announce. They’re in the “safe zone” where people can hear their happy news. Must be nice for you…

Josh Dugger. Yes, the oldest of John and Michelle’s 19. Yes, the one who raped two of his sisters and had affairs while claiming to care about the sanctity of marriage. Yes, that one. He just announced they are expecting their SIXTH child this fall. Must be nice for you…

Your toddler is screaming. Your 7 year old won’t eat anything but crackers. Your teenager hasn’t finished their homework. Your baby isn’t sleeping through the night. You keep complaining about the difficulties of parenting. What I wouldn’t give to embrace the difficulties of parenting. Must be nice for you…

You prayed for 2893473287 days and “God blessed you.”* You are pregnant with twins. Must be nice for you…
*in quotations because this theology is problematic and profane.

You need a new stroller because the one you have is too heavy? Must be nice for you…

You have stretch marks. You can’t seem to lose the baby weight. You have varicose veins. Your boobs are saggy. Must be nice for you…

I’ve been experiencing this grieving process for 30 days now. I’m learning that I never know what will trigger my tears. I’m learning that other peoples excitement brings me pain. So all I can say is your joy must be nice for you…

2 thoughts on “Must Be Nice for You…”

  1. I’m so sorry! I’m also a member of All Saints and more relevantly, a member of this horrible club of pregnancy loss (5 times over). You and James are in my thoughts and prayers. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. If you feel comfortable, I’m here if you need a listening ear.

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  2. Thank you so much for sharing these words and for the reminder that I’m not alone. I’ve been grieving for almost 4 months and the tears are still easily triggered by comments or announcements. Prayers for you in this season!

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