When James and I lost our first child we were completely clueless and did not know where to turn. Once the initial shock sunk in I began to do research. I was quickly welcomed into a community of parents who have lost their children in pregnancy and early infancy. I pray you find community in your journey through loss. Community is what saved me. Community through church, community through friends, and community through the world wide web. Here are a few organizations that helped the most:
Still Standing Magazine
Founded in 2012, Still Standing Magazine, LLC, shares stories from around the world of writers surviving the aftermath of loss, infertility, and includes information on how others can help.
I am always impressed with Still Standing as they share the most vulnerable and honest stories written mothers, fathers, grandparents, and friends. You will find that they are careful on what they share and make certain to honor all forms of grief. Follow them on Facebook or Instagram.
Zoe-Clark Coates is a British mother of Seven. Five of her children passed in early pregnancy. Zoe is a super-mom and clinical Psychologist who has written three books about loss. The two most helpful books for child loss are Saying Goodbye and The Baby Loss Guide.
Saying Goodbye is a personal story of baby loss and 90 days of support to walk you through grief. The Baby Loss Guide is a practical and compassionate support with a day-by-day resource to navigate the path of grief.
Zoe is very much an inspiration to all parents who have lost children. She is a spiritual person who has founded the organization Saying Goodbye. Zoe is a spiritual person who offers incredible insights and comfort through her social media accounts. I encourage you to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.
Return to Zero: Hope
RTZ: Hope was founded by Kiley Hanish after her first son was born still.
RTZ: HOPE is a non-profit organization engaging a global community of bereaved parents and their health providers to improve mental health outcomes, while also advancing pregnancy and infant loss awareness, education, and support.
I have found honesty and openness with this community. They offer retreats for bereaved mothers, as well as education for healthcare professionals. Kiley and her husband created a movie that offers a truth many people aren’t willing to reveal. You can watch the trailer here. I encourage you to follow RTZ: HOPE on Instagram and Facebook.
Saying Goodbye provides comprehensive information, advice, support and much more to anyone who has suffered the loss of a baby, at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy.
Saying Goodbye was started by Zoe Clark-Coates and offers not only grief support, but also spiritual support. This is a British organization that holds “Saying Goodbye” church services for families grieving loss. Follow them on Facebook.
What Was Lost
This book was gifted to me by my friends in Conference Youth Ministry when we lost our Sweet Pea. Admittedly, I saw that it was a “Christian Journey Through Miscarriage” and put it on the shelf. I was worried it would try and quiet my grief. Fortunately, I picked it back up and I’m so glad I did.
This is written by a United Methodist Clergy Woman who lost her first pregnancy while studying at Duke Divinity School. It is full of wisdom and theological insight. I highly recommend this book. You can buy it here.
Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS)
PALS is an organization offering support to women who want to conceive again after loss. I must fess up and share that I joined this group not knowing if we would want to have another child or not. Whatever you choose is best for your family, PALS is there for you. You can follow them on Instagram or Facebook.
If you do decide to conceive again, they have groups under their umbrella for different types of loss so that you can further connect with other families.